“I don’t want you at the wedding. Drew agrees,” my daughter-in-law texted twelve days before my son’s wedding. I had committed $86,000 toward the celebration. When I called Drew, he suggested I watch the livestream from home. Then I asked whether he still expected me to pay for the catering, chairs, lighting, and staff. “Mom,” he said, “you promised.”
Twelve days before my son’s wedding celebration, my daughter-in-law sent me a text that made forty years of motherhood feel strangely negotiable.…